It’s easy to hand out advice to others on how to raise their children.
From an objective perspective, we see where other parents are going wrong. We can see if they are too strict, too permissive, too aggressive, or are simply absent from their children’s lives.
But of all the parenting styles, neglectful parenting is perhaps the most detrimental in the long-term.
With a hectic life filled with daily stressors, it can be hard to organize your time and your energy around others. Even your own children.
But here’s why the neglectful parenting style is one to be aware of – and avoided.
What Are The 4 Types Of Parenting Styles?
Diana Baumrind, a famous German psychologist known for her parenting critique, defined four major types of parenting:
The disciplinarian or authoritarian parent makes rules that are well explained. These parents expect their rules to be followed without excuses. And if a child breaks a rule, they know there will be consequences.
The second type of parenting style is called permissive parenting. There are rules, but they’re not strictly enforced. This style of parenting emphasizes freedom and creativity above almost all else.
The authoritative style is the combination of the first two. And of the four parenting styles, it has proven to be the most productive.
Parents that use this style are strict but can be reasoned with. They make sure their child understands why something must or mustn’t be done. In fact, communication is the most important factor in the authoritative parenting style.
The fourth and final parenting style is known as uninvolved parenting. This type of parenting hurts children the most. Even though the children are rarely grounded or criticized, the children come to feel unimportant and unloved. And this can result in lowered self-esteem later in life.
How Does Bad Parenting Affect A Child?
A child needs to develop under the guidance and support of a parent. On the road to finding themselves, they will feel lost and confused. And this is where the parent steps in.
When a parent sees their child struggling – they act.
Of course, kids also need the opportunity to deal with the stuff on their own. But when they’re struggling, their parents need to be there for them.
The important factor is open communication, and knowing when to step in and how to help.
Being a helicopter parent will leave your child incapable of solving any problem alone. But the opposite of this, an uninvolved parent who shows no interest in their children, leaves the child with crippled self-esteem.
The trick is learning to strike a healthy balance between being overinvolved and being uninvolved.
What is disengaged parent?
A disengaged parent is another word for an uninvolved or neglectful parent.
Disengaged parents aren’t interested in their children’s daily activities. They’re hands-off: they don’t get involved and don’t dedicate much time and energy to their children.
Unfortunately, being raised in this type of atmosphere can have negative consequences for children in the long run. In fact, a child raised by a neglectful or disengaged parent often has difficulty maintaining healthy social relationships into adulthood.
The best way to ensure your children are given the right tools to succeed? Open the lines of communication. Listen to your child’s heart. Learn what makes them tick. Be invested in their dreams.
Set them up for a life of success.
As Jon Butcher, Author of Mindvalley’s Lifebook Program says,
“If everybody in the world brought more consciousness to their life and took more responsibility for themselves, we would have one hell of a good world to be living in.”
So, which parenting style do you tend to follow? Share your thoughts below.