Parenting can be a controversial topic. But the key to successful parenting is understanding what style of parenting works best for you and for your children.
By learning more about the four primary parenting styles, you’ll be better able to custom tailor your parenting approach for your children.
We’re going to explore the four primary parenting styles, and take a closer look at the permissive parenting style and its effects both short and long term
What Are Two Permissive Parenting Styles?
Diana Baumrind was a German clinical and developmental psychologist born in 1927 in Berlin. She’s responsible for the creation of the Baumrind parenting styles: authoritative, authoritarian and permissive.
Later, psychologists Maccoby and Martin expanded the permissive parenting style model with a two-dimensional framework. Today, permissive parenting holds its own category on the list, while a fourth parenting style, neglectful (uninvolved) parenting, has been added.
Indulgent permissive parenting involves parents placing fewer rules for their children. The mindset is best explained by the phrase: “kids will be kids.”
In this style of parenting, parents offer their children a great deal of autonomy. Their children are free to explore, play, and learn from their mistakes.
Uninvolved parenting, on the other hand, provides little to no guidance. While indulgent parenting involves a more hands-on approach, uninvolved parenting is dangerously hands-off. Parents are less involved in their children’s development. Children raised under this style are more likely to develop difficulties in their social and romantic relationships as they grow older.
What Are the 4 Types of Parenting Styles?
“It’s not the big things that happen to you that will determine whether or not you will become the person you really want to become and get the life you really want to get. It’s the small daily choices and actions that really create success — or failure — across every important area in life.” —Jon Butcher, Author of Mindvalley’s Lifebook Program
As mentioned above, there are 4 primary parenting styles: authoritarian, authoritative, permissive and neglectful.
Since we’ve already touched on permissive and neglectful, let’s cover the differences between authoritarian vs authoritative parenting.
With authoritarian parenting, the mindset these parents usually have is: “it’s my way or the highway.” They expect obedience and don’t like to have their authority questioned.
But authoritative parenting is somewhat different from authoritarian parenting.
In this parenting style, parents invest in building and maintaining a healthy relationship with their children based on mutual respect. Ground rules are set and expected to be followed, but the reasoning behind the rules is always made clear.
What is an example of permissive parenting?
The permissive parenting style is characterized by more autonomy for children to make their own decisions. Parents are non-demanding and non-directive and sometimes choose not to specify their expectations of their children.
This lack of guidance actually helps foster more assertiveness in children. Because they’re given more freedom to make their own decisions, they learn from an early age how to ask for what they want.
Children raised under the permissive parenting style become more social and independent. Usually, there is not much conflict in their relationships with their parents since both parties have an equal say in a conversation.
Parents encourage their children to explore as much as they can and to figure out what works and what doesn’t through trial and error.
The difference between permissive parenting and authoritative parenting? The expectations parents have for their children. Authoritative parents have clear rules that need to be followed. Permissive parents have less stringent rules and more flexibility in their approach.
What Effect Does Authoritative Parenting Have On A Child?
Authoritative parenting is often observed in middle-class families as a strategy to help kids achieve higher academic performance and become more self-reliant and self-confident.
It functions as the happy medium between authoritarian and permissive parenting styles. It features a balance of freedom and structure, autonomy and rule-following.
Authoritative parents seek cooperation and aren’t afraid to explain to their kids why they should follow the rules. They rarely shame them if they do something wrong. Instead, they encourage open communication and mutual understanding.
At the end of the day, it’s not easy to choose a parenting style. But the best approach to parenting is to simply decide what actions and beliefs you want your child to develop and do your best to facilitate that with your chosen parenting style..03
Do you think that parents should stick to just one style of parenting all the time? Which style do you think is the best and why? Let us know in the comments below!